Happy Sunday Canna Fam! My goal is to put out a new blog every two weeks moving forward, but no promises! I had you guys pick a blog topic this week, and two out of three of the options had the same number of votes, so I have decided to put out one blog this Sunday, and one next Sunday! Now today’s topic is something we can all relate on, no matter who you are in the world. None of us can say that we have experienced a perfect life. However, I am sure some of us do a lot better at dealing with the imperfections that life does throw our way. If you find yourself more of a perfectionist, I am sure this is even more of a struggle for you as you want things to just go right, and that is understandable as well. Unfortunately, a lot of life is just out of our control at the end of the day, but what we can control is how we react to the imperfections life brings our way. I think one of the biggest lessons I have learned for myself in the last year that helps me deal with this is grace.
Giving others, and more importantly yourself, grace is one of the most freeing things you can do in life. Life is going to bring on some bullshit, to put it frankly, and sometimes we have to allow ourselves to handle things the wrong way to get to the right way. I know that sounds a little counterintuitive, but a lot of our growth comes from the moments where life isn’t perfect. How many times can you look back at something in your life that you thought was going to break you? Did it? Did you make it harder or easier on yourself to go through that already not great situation? A lot of the times we make it harder on ourselves and have these high expectations as if we have a rulebook we are following on life. The reality is none of us do. We are all out here winging it, and taking maybe a little of the guidance we got from our parents…. Guess what? They were winging it too. None of us are prepared for how to handle situations that aren’t going our way, but by giving yourself grace to screw up, you can find the blessing in these tougher points.
When life starts throwing obstacles your way, and goes off course, do you typically start to throw a pity party? Now don’t feel bad if you feel attacked currently, because I have been there myself; however, I have learned that you will stay down if you let yourself stay down. Period. If we wallow in the flaws of life, instead of problem solving how to deal with those imperfections, we stay stuck. In my opinion, sometimes self-pity attracts more negative things to happen in your life, when instead you could be manifesting that life turns around for you. I think we forget to think about the things that make us feel good when things are going bad, but that is the time that we should think of those things that bring us joy the most. Do not deprive yourself of happiness as a way to punish yourself for what is already going bad in your life. You are already experiencing the bad, so now is the time to flip your way of thinking and make things good again. Trust me, I know this is much easier said than done, but I hope it just gets you thinking a different way. If you get thrown off course easily by things not going your way, maybe try to change your expectations and assume things aren’t always going to run smoothly. When we lower our expectations, especially when it comes to others, I think we save ourselves a lot of disappointment down the road. This doesn’t mean you should expect things to go bad in life, but in all reality, sometimes bad things will happen, and all we can control is the way we react to them.
At the end of the day, if your life feels like your idea of perfect at any point, I hope you are filled with gratitude. We can aim for those perfect moments, but it is unrealistic to not be prepared for the imperfections as well. I think it has made it a lot easier for me to deal with the bad moments in life when I know that I keep my side of the street clean. I do the best I can do every day, and when I catch myself falling off, I give myself grace to get better. I know I am an imperfect person, so when life brings imperfect situations, I am not surprised. As adults, we know when we are bringing bad karma into our lives as well and can hopefully understand the difference in life’s imperfections and experiencing karma for the bad decisions you have made. Life will catch up to you if you are out there taking it for granted, so definitely be aware of the energy you put out into the world. Thankfully, I know a lot of you are out there being the best versions of yourselves, and when you fall off, you do the work to get back on track. Life will be imperfect to you sometimes just so we can learn the lessons that come with it but stay resilient. I wish you all courage and strength in getting through your imperfectly perfect lives.
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